All Podcasts With Tonya Hackney
Want to have more influence over how your kids see the world? Then make them a priority! Today I conclude my conversation with Tanya Hackney - sailor and author of Leaving the Safe Harbor. We talk...
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Home Schooling, Parental Responsibility, and the American Dream
Want to have more influence over how your kids see the world? Then make them a priority!
Today I conclude my conversation with Tanya Hackney - sailor and author of Leaving the Safe Harbor. We talk about homeschooling, parental responsibility, the American dream, and whether kids can actually survive away from the screen. Today's podcast is a powerful challenge to parents - because it asks a very basic question - just how much of a priority is our family?
Well, because you're a schoolteacher and because you've been doing this for a while, you do have some qualifications to answer this. Next question is that right now, there's no question that our public school systems are justifiably being criticized for how they are teaching our kids what they're teaching our kids. Parents are in an uproar against it. And one of the answers is home schooling or group schooling. This is a podcast designed towards pastors and church leaders and those within the church. Is there a way? Do you think that the local church can make education for our kids a little bit easier?
Well, you're also asking someone who's a bit of a, you know, outside the system, so so that's a hard question, I think the first responsibility lies with the parents to actually raise the children that they had. And our society does not make that easy and our priorities do not make that easy to prioritize raising your children yourselves and instilling them with the values that you think are important and giving them the word of God and giving them the foundation of trust. The way to do that is to have, I think and I know I'm going to sound like a loony here and like a throwback like June Cleaver. I think it's to have at least one parent who's really dedicated to staying with those kids when they're, you know, very young so that you're there for them and that you can. You can be their main influence, I mean, a person becomes like the people they spend time with, and so if your kid is dropped off at daycare, you know, from the time that they're six months old and then they're in school and then an after school programs and then they're they're surrounded by these other people and they're essentially being raised by strangers. And so I think to kind of pull back from what's happening, we've done a societal experiment and I think it's, you know, it's failing, it's failing our kids. I think that we need to go back to some kind of model where and it doesn't have to necessarily be the mom. I have friends who've had, you know, the mom works and the dad stays at home. But we have to have some people really dedicated to raising good people because raising children in an institutional setting doesn't raise compassionate, caring, critical thinking human beings.
What you're saying goes against, though, what has become the American dream. I want it all. And in order to have it all, I've got to work all these hours and so my kids are going to pay the price because I'm going to drop them off at daycare from the time that they can be away from me until they graduate from high school 18 years later. And what you're saying is, is that we've got to get away from that.
Well, yeah, and it's your loss too, because you have these wonderful children that you love more than life itself. And then you you work so hard to raise them, but then you don't get to actually enjoy the fruits you know of those labors because they're away from you all the time and you're not getting to spend the time with them or they don't behave the way that you would want them to behave and then you don't even like them. And that, to me, is a real tragedy. We rejected the American dream. Actually, we would probably classify that as the American nightmare. We lived in a house in suburban Atlanta with a white picket fence. We had two cars and a weekend card. Jay drove a Porsche for a while. It was our date car. You know, only two seats, so it couldn't take any kids with us.
Leaving the Safe Harbor: The Risks and Rewards of Raising a Family on a Boat
Leaving the Safe Harbor shows us more than seafaring stories or what it’s like to go sailing with kids. Each chapter explores a different sailing idiom and the character traits developed by challenges and adventures. It shows that conflict can be handled through grace, how failures can lead to future successes, how hardship can teach us gratitude and help us find inner strength. It reveals the trade-offs when a family prioritizes relationships and experiences over material things and a so-called normal life. Living close to nature enriches the author’s spiritual life. And the ocean teaches life lessons, including how to be flexible, disciplined, patient, and open to new experiences. Most importantly, Leaving the Safe Harbor shows us how love, perseverance, and hard work can turn an idea into a reality